Had a great weekend.
Saturday: Play-date with Z’s classmate and his mother….
By the way, have I introduced the family properly. My daughter, Z, will be 3 soon. She’s in nursery. Delightful, intelligent girl. But then I would say that! She’s really well behaved and easy to please. Favourite colour is red (at the moment) so everything we buy for her… she chooses red. Refuses to wear dresses or skirts. Luckily, her nursery is attached to a school and they have to wear uniform… so she concedes and wears her school skirt. A few months ago she worked out that if she wet herself (potty-training was in full swing) that the teachers would change her into spare joggers / trousers (from the spare clothes basket) rather than the spare skirt in her bag. The spare clothes basket was always closer! So Z always came home in trousers… all smiles. Well, she has sensitive skin and eventually broke out in a rash down her legs… so I went in to talk to the teachers and asked that they only used the clothes in her school bag… on the basis that they are washed in the detergent we use at home that we know she’s not allergic to… real reason is that some parents do not always wash the “spare clothes” that turn up in their child’s school bag and they return to the school… these unlabelled items end up in the spare clothes basket… quite grotty looking stuff (some of it). Of course, parents like me always wash and iron before returning… but some lazy dirty parents out there! So… the teachers started to only let her wear her own clothes… skirts… from her bag. Of course, the wetting incidents stopped after the first day… my clever girl!! So, at weekends. No skirts. No dresses. Only trousers or jeans. No matter what we show her in shops… she agrees it’s pretty but always says “no way, mummy” if I ask if she’ll wear it. Have ignored her a couple of times and bought the stuff anyway… still hanging – unworn – in the wardrobe! So that’s Z in a nutshell. No doubt you’ll hear more at a later date.
Hubby is Q. Lovely guy. Loves romance and all that…. In theory! Never quite translates to real life… I think that generally applies to that species of human.
So back to my weekend… play-date, lovely lunch… evening curled up with Q on the sofa (Z in bed by 7pm!!!) watching a DVD and eating takeaway Chinese.
Sunday: Out all day at friend’s house… big Sunday lunch, children running around and playing nicely (all girls!), very interesting conversation amongst adults about books (Chimamanda Adichie’s “Half of a Yellow Sun” – Excellent read!), sex (when to tell your children about the birds and the bees? How graphic?), politics, babies (new one on the way for my friend), food (of course!), slavery, street crime…. Everything. Entirely lovely day.
Then on the drive home… I asked Q what he thinks… do married couples kiss, long deep kisses, every day, even after all the initial lust and excitement has gone? Or do they revert to perfunctory quick-peck-on-the-lips eventually? He was of the long-kiss persuasion. I was of the quick-peck opinion. I sometimes come up with weird topics like this on long drives home… makes things interesting!
We are at the stage of the relationship (after 7 years) that we alternate between the two. When life is particularly hectic and busy… we fall into the bad habit of quick-peck (exclude bd action in all this discussion – hope you know what bd stands for! – and just assume that long-kiss applies before, during and after bd!). Other times, one of us surprises the other into long-kiss mode and we keep it up for a while. But what is the norm?
So we had quite a playful conversation about it and by the time we were in bed the conversation moved on… we both decided we’d keep up the long-kiss option for 2 months, as a challenge. No short kisses (less than a minute) or quick pecks! Being a man, he then extended the challenge… bd every night for a month. Of course he would go there… He’s a man! Always looking for an opportunity to up the ante. Of course, not to be the one to kill the moment… I agreed. We are pretty normal when it comes to bd (I think!)… a few dry spells when I really can’t be bothered, or bearing a grudge, or would rather watch CSI… he’s up for it any time, any where… he says!
This morning, in the cold light of day… I wondered what I’d let myself in for… so a bit of a weird turn out for the weekend.
Best get back to work…. Nearly home time!!
2 comments:
My dear... good luck on your challenge. I will be checking regularly for updates and will hospital visit if necc.
oh wow, first of all let me say YIKES YIKES AND DOUBLE YIKES to the fact that some parents don't wash the spare clothes! My toddler who is 2 yrs old has just started pre-school, he is still in nappies so I'm okay for now, but please when he starts going without nappies I think I'm going to fill in form oh!....and say on no account should spare 'all for all' clothes touch his skin, I will think up some solid reason, I hate lying but oh boy...yikes!
As for the challenge...ooooo la la!
Well what can I say, please keep us posted, it is so easy to fall into letting the Passion slip, hope it goes well and really spices up your union together as Husband and Wife...
Thanks for comments about my cakes.
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